The first step is mapping out what a successful relationship looks like for you and then identifying the patterns of behavior that contribute to the disconnection in your relationship.
Here we develop an agreement on what you can
do to create the healthy relationship you desire.
The bulk of the work is teaching you communication skills and providing you with feedback to help you (and your partner) to earn to integrate them in ways that enhance connection.
This is the investment you make in your personal work, that regardless of how your partner shows up, that you are committed to focusing on what is within your control to improve yourself.