Imagine a space where you and your beloved are not mere clients but co-authors of your love story. Gottman Method Therapy, pioneered by the brilliant minds of Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Gottman, is a holistic approach to couples counselling that brings clarity to the beautiful enigma of relationships. Based on their extensive research on couples’ interactions and relationship issues, the Gottman Method aims to help couples strengthen their emotional connection, manage conflict and improve communication. Gottman couples therapy sessions can help emotionally distanced couples or those experiencing frequent marital conflicts to replace negative conflict patterns and gain a new shared meaning and positive perspective.
Gottman couples therapy is firmly grounded in empirical research. Drs. John and Julie Gottman of the Gottman Institute have conducted extensive studies on thousands of couples, identifying patterns of behaviour and communication that either nurture or erode relationships. By drawing on this wealth of data, the method offers evidence-based interventions that have been proven to enhance relationship satisfaction.
One of the core pillars of the Gottman approach is its emphasis on fostering positive interactions and emotional connections between partners. Gottman-trained therapists aim to help couples build a culture of appreciation, admiration, and fondness, leading to increased emotional intimacy.
Communication is at the heart of any relationship. The Gottman Method equips couples with essential communication tools such as active listening, empathetic responding, and the use of "I" statements. By mastering these skills, Gottman couples can navigate conflicts more constructively and strengthen their emotional bonds creating healthy relationships.
Understanding and managing emotions is a crucial aspect of successful relationships. Gottman couples therapy encourages partners to cultivate emotional intelligence, which involves recognizing and expressing emotions effectively. This skill helps couples to empathize with one another and create a more supportive and understanding environment.
The concept of the Love Map, which helps partners gain a deeper understanding of each other's inner worlds, fosters a sense of emotional intimacy. By being attuned to each other's needs, dreams, and fears, couples can nurture their connection and feel more deeply known and cherished.
Love maps constitute the first floor of what Gottman refers to as a "Sound Relationship House". On subsequent "floors of the house", couples are encouraged to foreground the overt expression of appreciation and respect, share fondness and admiration, support and champion each other's dreams, and view errors as matters of circumstance rather than failures, among other things.
The Gottman Method doesn't shy away from addressing conflicts. Rather, it provides couples with tools for managing conflict in a healthy and respectful manner. An emphasis on repair teaches couples how to mend emotional ruptures and allows for organic healing and growth within the relationship.
Gottman therapy recognizes friendship as the root of commitment and trust and encourages couples to enjoy each other's company in playful and flexible ways that aren't based on logistical communications or romantic expectations. It recognizes that building a solid foundation of friendship is crucial to romantic relationships and helps couples to cultivate and maintain a lasting friendship that can act as a buffer during challenging times and contribute to long-term relationship satisfaction.
Strong friendship correlates to a strong sense of "us" and contributes to an authentic sense of unity and a positive outlook on the relationship.
Every couple is unique, and the Gottman approach recognizes this. Therapists trained in this method tailor their interventions to suit each couple's specific needs and dynamics, making the treatment plan highly personalized and effective.
The ultimate goal of the Gottman Method is to help couples create lasting, healthy relationships based on mutual respect, emotional understanding, and effective communication. By addressing negative patterns, enhancing positive interactions, and fostering emotional intimacy, couples can improve their relationship satisfaction and overall well-being. A qualified therapist trained in Gottman couples therapy will tailor the method to each couple's specific needs and dynamics.
Seeking a Calgary psychologist to begin your couples counselling journey with? Contact the dedicated team at One Life Counselling & Coaching Ltd. to learn more about the Gottman Method or book a couples therapy session.
If being able to use your insurance benefits is an important factor in your selection, our team would be happy to recommend one of our therapists who's services are covered by most insurance plans. Please be sure to confirm in advance if insurance coverage is preferred.
Our standard fees are aligned with the recommended fee schedule from the Psychologist’s Association of Alberta. However, we offer the added value of 60-minute sessions in contrast to the recommended 50-minute session for this fee.
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