This past month, we’ve been living in unprecedented times. Faced with many new uncertainties, we are challenged in staying up to date with what is happening next, battling the fears of what everything means for us, and grieving the many choices that have been taken away.
The COVID-19 pandemic has pushed us down and waits for us to stand-up and hold our ground. Are you able find solid footing when all that surrounds you feels so unstable? Perhaps you can hear the voice of a coach from the past shouting at you from the sidelines “FOCUS! You need to focus!”
But on what?
As I see it, there are three options:
Giving attention to what is out of our control looks like scrolling through endless stories of how this situation could get worse, pushing ourselves into a heightened state of anxiety. Avoidance looks like binge watching Netflix at all hours of the day to forget everything in existence beyond the storyline and that might lead to feeling depressed. In these states, our fear can grow.
Let me be clear, the cost of staying in fear is damaging to your body, mind and spirit.
I keep hearing from my clients that their inner alarm bells are going off repeatedly. Overwhelmingly the response is stress induced by their fear. They, like many of us, are experiencing our nervous system being hijacked on a daily and sometimes hourly basis.
It easy to see how contagious fear is as an emotion. Spend any length of time on social media, watching the news or going to a grocery store and you will witness the power of emotional contagion. When in fear, our bodies stay in a heightened state of stress which can lead to anxiety or depression.
While collective efforts are being made to protect our physical well-being, fear is eroding our mental, emotional and spiritual well-being. We need to be creative and resourceful in how we combat it.
At One Life, our team of registered psychologists, psychotherapists and personal coaches are here to help you move through this fear. We can introduce you to the tools and strategies to regain control of your mindset and find meaning and purpose in these challenging times.
Here are three strategies to get you started.
It takes energy and inner resources to engage in positive self-care like meditation, yoga, mindful walking, exercise, etc. Right now, you might feel like you don’t have much energy, and the less you do, the less energy you have.
Here’s what I recommend: keep up your positive self-care habits, just re-calibrate how much feels do-able for now. Slowly, your energy reserves will build back up.
What if our day was measured not by what we are doing but by who we are being in the time we have?
My invitation to you is, start each day asking yourself the question “How do I want to show up?”
I encourage you to train your mind to see the magic in small things and learn to intentionally look for it.
What is coming in the next weeks and months will come. It will pass. We will survive and hopefully we will learn more about ourselves going through this challenging time.
If you are experiencing challenges with anxiety, depression or your relationships, our One Life team of registered psychologists and psychotherapists in Calgary is available and ready to support you through video counselling.
Together, we will get through these times.
Darrah Wolfe Certified Performance Coach
Ken Fierheller Registered Psychotherapist & Relationship Coach